I have worked with quite a few mums who have had to stop breastfeeding due to serious health problems or were unable to continue for various other reasons. 

Quite a few of them had embraced the attachment parenting lifestyle and found themselves not only grieving the loss of breastfeeding, but now feeling like they are no long “proper” attachment parents.

Weaning from breastfeeding can come with so much guilt or sometimes the mother feels relief and then feels guilty for the relief! It’s never ending with mums.

Always remember YOU are this baby’s mother and sometimes to be the best mother is to take that medication that’s not compatible with breastfeeding, or to take the steps needed for either you or your baby’s health.

I know from personal experience with my third child that I was better able to embrace attachment life style once I was no longer in pain. 

I could carry my baby in a sling once more and hold her close. 

Formula feeding parents don’t need to stop co-sleeping, they just need to be more careful. We drilled holes in our cot to make it level with our bed and secured it so it was safe and co- slept with a side car cot instead. 

My baby was still fed on demand with her bottle and had a dummy and lots of mommy cuddles for comfort. 

We still did not leave her to cry and met her every need. 

You too can give your baby everything they need and be the best mum you can be.